Are you a GREAT father?

Happy father's day to every great fathers out there.

Every GREAT father deserves to be recognized. Being a father is not an easy task and for me, I can say, there are only few men who can really be a great father especially nowadays. I mean, you can be a great lover, a great husband, a great friend, a great brother, etc. but being a great dad is much much different. Not all fathers take their role seriously. And for be being a father is a huge responsibility and one of the most difficult job/career you can take just like being a mom. Some can be a great husband but not being a great dad, some may be a lousy husband but can be a great daddy, some can be a good provider but too busy to be a father, and some may be a good father but can't provide for their family and you'll be damn lucky if you can get a man both a great husband, a great provider and at the same time a great father.

Not lucky for me that my father is neither a great husband nor a great dad. Damn! But life goes on, if only we can get to choose our parents. hmm.. : ) That is why I am so jealous of people who can get a chance to have such a wonderful dad. A father that you can rely on, that will take care of you, carry you, comfort you and make you feel all the love he can give that even you're already on your 30s, you will always be his little princess. A father that you can feel you are always safe as long as you have him in your life and a father that when you're still small and tell everyone that you want a husband someday just like your dad. A father that you'll be proud of and a father that every girl like me wishing to have one. But there is always a reason for everything and we have no other choice but to accept it, if you're unlucky like me. But what I learned is, if I get the chance to have my own family, I should pick one man who can be both, a great husband and much much great father to my future children. At least my children will get a chance to experience something I long for, to have a wonderful family I never had.

Being a parent should not be taken lightly. In my own perspective,
one unhappy wife + one happy husband = unhappy family or
one confused wife + one irresponsible husband = one big miserable family or
one super great wife + one drug addict husband = a terrible family with emotionally battered children
one career woman wife + one lousy jobless husband = a disaster family that soon be a broken family
the list may go on and on, hope you got my point.


So better aim for this;
a couple who is both emotionally, financially, spiritually, mentally, physically and in-love + both want to have a great marriage and wonderful children + happy as a person (meaning both are happy even without the other but are better if together) = then what are you waiting for! get married, multiply and be happy : )

My point is, raising a family is not something we can take back, if we think we can't take it any longer. Being in a relationship is already difficult how much more if you will bring a child in between it if you, yourself don't know how to make yourself happy. There are lot of unhappy children already in this world, if you can't bring up a happy family, don't even think of getting married or get yourself pregnant. Seriously, you will just contribute in adding a population full of unhappy, confused, miserable, emotionally battered children that someday can blame you for letting them live in a terrible life that they don't deserve. So better think twice or yet a hundred times before getting yourself pregnant o getting your girl pregnant, so if you will end up badly, there are no children involved and can just move on with you life and maybe if you can find your perfect partner later on, that will be the time that you can think of having a family again if you got the formula already. And I am talking here base on my own experience (but now is not the time to talk about it).

I know there are some point in our lives that we are unsure or really so head over heels that you thought the relationship is perfect and yet you end up getting a divorce with a children on the side. Well, life goes on, just aim for few things = be a perfect parent (even as a single mom or dad), make your children happy and let them grow fulfilled, continue making a good family even you don't have a better half,  a good provider and never make the same mistake again ever!
 
Life is hard! You should never let your future children experience a much harder life! Every good life for the future starts in you, every good person belongs to a good family. Aim for that one and we will surely have a better world. Love can change everything.

Sofie